October 8th, 2007
Kama Told Me Not To Cum
I was lounging on this sultry night, yes hard to believe it’s almost mid October, reading Notes from Underground for the first time when descending from nowhere in particular, not a thought or an itch, an odd restlessness overcame me. I decided to change it up a bit. I started to flip though several books on Tantric Sex given to me by my future sister-in-law. To know her in all her concupiscence is to love her, even though on a subbasement level sharing books on tantric sex with someone who is likely to marry into my family gives me a good skin crawling.
The air here has been turned off due to pre-winter maintenance. I blame my sudden willingness to read this stuff on the heat.
I flipped immediately to the only sections which I had any interest in, The Kama Sutra as interpreted for these tantric sex manuals. I found it all quite unappealing, the concept and the impression I get of some translucent experience which lasts forever but never allows you to see anything totally free of gauze. Eventually it gets a little headier.
The art of prolonging the pleasures of lovemaking without reaching orgasm is described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century. “Karezza” is the term used to define a male’s practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called “dry orgasms”, orgasms without ejaculation, are pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue.
I have practiced Yoga, on some lower level, for several years on and off, but this idea of me being all with every microcosm in the universe does not do it for me. Nor does searching for some elusive form of ecstasy by a consciously prolonged, to the point of certain boredom, sexual experience; it only brings to mind a sweaty body which I doubt gets less sweaty as the hours drag on.
We all know orgasms are good for our health, frequent orgasms are better.
Frequent and powerful orgasms increase the level of the orgasm hormone, oxytocin. The oxytocin level is linked to the personality, passion, social skills and emotional quotient (EQ), all of which affects career, marriage, emotions and social life. Orgasms are very beneficial for sexual health because they empower our pituitary (brain function).
Frequent I can take, but prolonged to the point of what was in some of these books - no way. Call me a quick learner and a fast cummer with little patience. I’ll get that special spiritual connection with my partner on a more cerebral level. I think even though a lot of orgasms may be healthy, one day they will find that prolonged - especially non ejaculatory - orgasms and all this work trying to reach another plane of ecstasy is a detriment to ones health, and state of mind. Not to mention it would interfere with sleep. Sleep is something we need more by the way, because of everything they still do not know about sleep the one thing they do know is without it we would die.
I’m quite open minded, and forever a voyeur into the lives of others, so if you are currently practicing some kick-ass Tantra Sex, feel it has helped you grow, or have had an ultimately mind blowing orgasm spiritually, ejaculatory or not even if it’s just in your mind, please feel free to share your experience with me all the readers who pass this way. Feel free to make me a believer.
