I have no agenda. I am not sure what people mean really, but in regard to the Duke case, my only agenda originally was to point out the sexist culture we live in, expressed more often by the commentary about women I see on blogs all over the place on posts surrounding the case ‚more than by the case itself, a case in which witnesses are being discredited daily.
Email from my mother — at our old home in Maryland this week.
The lilacs are in bloom here. I know how you like to know when they are in bloom, even though you’re not here. I hope you get to see them this weekend. I know how happy they make you. Imagine the fragrance darling.
I wish for a time when the smell of lilacs was all it took to make me happy.
Yes, she does call me darling, especially when she is in her pre 1970 movie mode. I love her anyway.
Oh no Things were looking up
Least that’s what I heard
Oh no Someone came and washed away
your hard-earned Peace of mind
ben folds
Tags: lilacs
Lately, I’ve been wishing I could go back to a time when the simple pleasures sufficed. As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed how much effort it takes to get me to a place that only took ten seconds of doing something idiotic and childish when I was younger. I’ve also noticed that the effect tends to wear off faster than it did before. I think that everything I do now is in pursuit of the everlasting joy that everyone else seems to have. I want that more than anything else.
I think a bowtie would make an excellent man-muzzle.
Is being called “darling” old fashion? One of my girlfriends calls me that
all the time and I love it. I too wish the simplicity of smelling a favorite
scent could put me in an absolute state of happiness. Perhaps for just
a moment is does… kind of like the “darling” thing.
We all have an agenda but that’s ok
I appreciate you taking time to make a blog about Darfur
for the very reasons you gave originally for starting it.
Thanks for sharing the email. Not often we get a look in.
” I so wish for a time when the smell of a lilac was all it took
to make me happy.”
That is the truth for many of us.
We have a few lilac bushes and my wife has been cutting them
daily.
daily.
I’m willing to bet lilac still brings a smile unbidden. :)
As far as Duke, things will turn out as they will. Hopefully it won’t go
all OJ with riots and such. But I agree with you wholeheartedly, there
are deeper issues with what went on beyond did they or didn’t they.
And although I believe in the Iraq war, the reasons I believe in it are
the same reasons I support action in Darfur… of any kind. And how
such a mass genocide can go uncommented on shows the utter
hypocrisy of the current administration.
Soapbox out.
I have a large lilac bush that is right outside my house in bloom. I like to leave the windows open so their fragrance fills the house. I absolutely love lilacs. I run a certain path in town because of the lilacs (I am such a sap).
I’m going to go take a picture and post it on my blog.
Oh, didn’t you get the memo…we’re all supposed to have an agenda these days…lol…I always wonder what people are thinking when they throw that word out at someone…
Oh, miss the smell of lilacs. And cherry blossoms — which a lot of people say have no smell.
Don’t eat too much take-out ;)
I could have sworn I saw a comment by Pia but it isn’t there anymore!
I am not particular to any flower but a freak in that I cannot, cannot walk by them without sniffing them to see if they have a scent. Flowers in San Francisco almost never did but here they do… then the kids and Loverboy are forced to sniff away…
We have some Fundamental Christian friends who are like family and live in Hong Kong and the mother of the family always calls us and everything darling. Yes, I said fundamental Christiam=n which pretty much means that many subjects are off the table or else not much peace can be had. And I admire them for being wise enough to know that…
See where mention of flowers takes us? Hmmm… darling flowers! ;)
mojo: I fear those days are gone gone gone. You can bring them back in your writing.
Doug: That mouth needs something much largers than a bow tie I fear.
Leigh: Lots of my gay male friends call me that. My mother calls me that in a different way.
Jacob: I think everyone wants to smell the lilacs, or the roses or whatever. Or so it seems. Thanks, your welcome and go cut some lilacs.
Dan: A smile unbidden for sure. It is what it is but is more indeed. Admittedly it is also the American people who have a power to change that to a great degree and Condie Rice has tried I give her that.
miz Bohem: Pia commented below she always comments on the post below the current one…lol Cowgirl: The fragrance is devine. I hope your birthday went well.
Jason: Well most
people think an agenda is that black book thy carry with their schedule in it so most people do not even know what an agenda is. That makes me happy to have the other kind. Is there anything but take out?
Daily pop in.
Don’t think I have anything to add.
Hug and thanks for the kind words on my blog.
I may have made note that the term “Rape Culture” is something I struggle with. And lately I’ve figured it out. It’s not that there is any question as to its existance. There was never any question in my mind, dating back years. It’s that the term feels like an accusation. And that is why people will accuse you of an agenda if you use it. It’s reciprocal in their minds I think. Not that they’re justified. Because everyone should have an agenda where this is concerned and the agenda is to stop rape and making people uncomfortable is collateral damage. And yet, there’s the risk one runs of alienating those who could be convinced to join the cause.
It sucks. And who wouldn’t see that this situation would. And I can’t pretend to having anything approaching an answer. And telling people that by defaming someone for using the phrase rape culture they’re vindicating the very person they’re defaming doesn’t seem to be a strategy that will work.
And I’m sorry that I said nothing to explain what I said when the term first came up. It’s not in keeping with my style.
Also sorry that I’ve blogged in your comment section
Somehow I don’t think Coop minds you blogging in her comment section Wombat.
Coyote: Daily Pop in? lol I call them something similar. Hope things are ok with the grandfather.
Wombat: Many males seem to have a hard time with the term ” rape culture”; it is not an accusation but that may indeed be the way males take it. It is merely a statement. A statement of fact in my opinion. I do understand your alienation theory though and it is a valid point. Sometimes though terms that “jar” need to be used in order to promote consideration.
If I was going to choose anyone to blog in my comment section it would be you.
Cowgirl: ditto.
We all have an agenda .